The Weekly Vlog


Jan 15, 2015

Today I had a woman in my office who shared with me, tears streaming down her face, that she hated what her life had become and she would rather die than go on living this way.

I found her words very moving, because she’s a smart, kind, likeable, capable woman with wonderful family, a network of friends, a great job, and deep faith.

But she’s tired of being overweight, and tired of treating herself like a garbage can. She takes care of everyone but herself. At the end of the day, after everything has been done and everyone else’s needs have been attended to, she sits in front of the TV and eats.

Sound familiar?

She works at my college, and she knows I teach a course on The Psychology of Eating. She originally reached out to me to ask if she could audit my upcoming Psych of Eating class.

She’s clear on one thing: She’s ready to make a change.

I told her that my course isn’t what she needs. Theory and textbooks won’t help her.

She needs an action plan.

She needs a food plan.

But most of all, she needs HOPE.

By the time she walked out of my office, hardly an hour later, she had all of the above.

Besides being a tremendously rewarding way to spend an afternoon, this exchange got me thinking.

What, exactly, is this thing we call “hope”?

What is it that she received in talking with me for those few minutes that restored the warmth and light to her eyes?

Believe it or not, there is now a scientific answer to that question. Positive Psychologists, psychologists who study “what makes life worth living,” including things like character strengths, flourishing marriages, and happiness-boosting activities, also study hope.

One prominent view, Snyder’s Hope Theory, says that hope is made up of three things.

The first component is the expectation that the future will be better than the present. There has to be a goal in the mix, and it has to be a positive goal. Erik Erikson defined hope as, “The enduring belief in the attainability of fervent wishes.” On its own, the belief in a brighter future isn’t really much different than optimism. But, of course, optimism and hope are not the same. Hope goes further.

Hence, the second component, which is a pathway. There has to be some road you could travel to get to this brighter future. This is why reading a good non-fiction book can be so uplifting. It provides a pathway.

But when you add the final ingredient, you really get the special sauce. The third component is agency, which is the belief that you yourself can travel that pathway and get to that goal, that promised land.

When I talked with this colleague today, I didn’t stand on a high mountain top and disseminate a lot of information about how her insulin levels are too high and they’re blocking the hormone leptin from being active in the brain, and how she’s consuming more calories than she’s burning, and if she eats less and exercises more she’ll lose weight.

Nope. I said none of that.

Instead, I showed her my fat picture.

She looked at it and nodded. “Yup,” she said. “That’s pretty much what I look like.”

Then I told her that I’d followed a method of eating called Bright Line Eating™ and it had worked for me.

I printed off a food plan.

I gave her a bulleted list of instructions for getting started.

I told her how to access the secret Bright Line Eating™ online community. She was all too willing to pay a few bucks a month to access 24-hour support for her journey. Plus, she knew she’d meet other people in the group who are on the same path, heading for the same goal.

Suddenly, it happened.

She had hope.

Not because she was healthier, more knowledgeable, or more talented.

But because she now could see the image of a bright future, knew the path to walk to get there, and could picture herself doing it.

That’s what we become, each one of us, when we grow into the best version of ourselves. We become beacons of hope.

When we talk with someone and describe our journey, they know that if we can do it, they can do it too.

With love,

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Susan Peirce Thompson, Ph.D. is a New York Times bestselling author and an expert in the psychology and neuroscience of eating.  Susan is the Founder and CEO of Bright Line Eating®, a scientifically grounded program that teaches you a simple process for getting your brain on board so you can finally find freedom from food.

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